The Lone Feminist

Dear Friends,

Many may wonder, why I choose the above topic. Well, because it completely defines one and one person alone- ME. Yeah! I am a Feminist. Not the type who questions each and every thing on newsrooms. Not the one who argues in public for equality and stabs at the back .
I am that kind of feminist, who actually believes that Feminism should start from one's home, within the hearts of the women over there.

For instance, we live in a world, where still on periods , even our own kids are not allowed to touch us. Seriously, they came out of our womb and still we are considered impure. How many decisions are taken by us for our own, that directly affects our lives? . Even, educated women, are just means of double income. Because, as per our people of the house, even though she is a very qualified professional, she lacks "out side knowledge on how the world works". Her first role, is always as a home maker and if she lacks those skills, then she lacks every thing.

Also, I believe , that if a change has to happen, one should start within ourselves. We women always second ourselves. We sacrifice on our interests, we sacrifice our likes and even our life styles, when we enter another home. Women are like a tree. When, a tree is suddenly uprooted, from a firm ground and then put into another soil, it needs strength, nurture and care to grow the roots deeper. The type of nurture decides whether the tree will grow into lush forest, sheltering many on its branches or withers away, even denying its own existence.May be we all should be like a cactus plant, standing in an adverse hot environment, with deep roots and plenty of water stored , providing for those who comes searching for the same. But, most of the time, we forget that only if we help other fellow women-beings at home, a strong family foundation could be established.

Women, is women's greatest adversary. No matter whatever you do, if your fellow women always criticize, do not do much, just ignore and continue with your good work. our mind is very complex, vibrant and distinct. Simple steps, lead to big changes.

As for me, I am constantly baffled by the way I see the women in my family behave. Why, is it necessary for them to consider themselves, unworthy of something, just because they lack in something , makes me question the norm. Of course, this has led to not so pleasant talks and encounters. Bought up by the person, who I consider the first Feminist in my life and having seen many in my side of the family ( where, there are more feminists than anything else) most of the times, I just could not help, but raise my voice when one person is demeaned by others. Why, is it that we do not even have the guts to stand up for other women of our own family and then talks about equality on the outside.

Nowadays, seeing the feminists in our television makes me laugh. How come these people, who cannot even make people around you understand equality- make the outside world aware of the same.

But, as they say, one should go on and on and on.......

Thank You

Welcome To My World: Midnight Conversations

Welcome To My World: Midnight Conversations: The major part of our time a day, we spend on conversations. Early morning, get ready to office conversation, to do conversation, tea...

Midnight Conversations

The major part of our time a day, we spend on conversations. Early morning, get ready to office conversation, to do conversation, tea-break conversations, Skype conversations, social media conversations and so on.... But , for me, the most interesting conversation is Midnight conversation.

Nope! I do not mean chatting in whats app or snap chat. I mean the ones we have, sitting in the porch/balcony, saying anything about everything.

These talks are priceless. We just forgets about the day's heaviness and finds solace in the dreamy night shadow. There are no ends of topics. We cover almost anything from the new joiner in office to whats happening in America! It is like a river finding its own path.Bouncing from one rock to another, it just flows smoothly, producing a sweet rhythm. There may not be anything productive, but the activity in itself is very joyful. It lightens the weigh in our heart. Makes us to forget the day's worries and gives strength to move forward.

Sometimes, these deep night talks, are intruded by the arrival of cold winds and drizzling rains. The atmosphere itself permeates an energy unparalleled to anything. Some conversations are so silent, that even a water drop could disturb the same. But these do not happen every day. It is very rare and has a beauty of its own. Who do not like it. We all love to be lost for a time, outside of our worries, pain and responsibilities. It does not need another person to have a conversation. You and the nature around you, is more than enough. After all , she is a very good listener.

We all should have,if not deliberately,such midnight conversations. The time is precious and priceless, which can never be duplicated. After all, geniuses are born only through these carefree talks. So spend time on it and use it freely.

So ends, my conversation for tonight.

Good Night!!

Welcome To My World: Tea Time Parties

Welcome To My World: Tea Time Parties: The most beautiful time in a day is - Tea time!! To sit on the balcony, in a sunny evening, may be rainy too, with a cup of sweet fresh bre...

Random Words 3: Changes

So, there has been some changes , some deep changes within me. Something, which cannot be pin-pointed. But, I am sure it is very deep . Recently, there is a sense of calm all around . It has not been felt ever before. This is not because, life has become more stressful, in fact, this time our hardship are huge. Emotionally, physically and financially, I am completely drained.

No, it's not that, but a feeling within my heart. A strange feeling of awakening is driving around in my veins. Maybe, it is the way life teaches you maturity. The rage is diminished, but not gone, It is just being diverted into many forms. Passion, vigor, confidence is being built steadily. The moment, we channelize our rage into more cultivating measures, is the moment you start living your own. We are the creator of our own consciousness. External factors are just simulators, we are the one who decides what we need to be.

Our personal development, depends on the thoughts we hold. We become what we think. Our actions are reflections of our thought process. The love turns to love, anger to frustration. Mind is never in our hands, it is always slipping away, but what we can do is to learn to bend it, to mold , to divert the flow into a positive channel. only this can help. It needs to be practiced continuously. Only through constant practice and dedication can we attain control. This is never easy, as it sound. Even I am still way behind the path, but since now I have seen the light I am never going to fall back.

My Dear Friends, love yourselves, then only you can bring change. It is the spirit within us who defines our journey. If we hate ourselves, how can we ever bring goodness to our lives. Rage can never be a part of something pure and good. And that purity and goodness, defines our life and of those connected with us. None of us is perfect, we have many disabilities, many physical constraints, many flaws ( proven by others). Learn to embrace them, learn to accept them, it is part of you, it is not going anywhere, but it also does not mean we need to sit on top of it and regret our whole lives.

Get out, be true, be YOU. 

Happy Sunday!!

Life's Little Pleasures

As humans, we always strive for happiness. We believe , it comes in various forms. In the form of success, in the form of family, respect, friendship and so on. There is always a constant desire in our heart, to seek out happiness- life long happiness. But, unfortunately, life is a bitter-sweet journey.
It never is constant and we are never content with what it we have.

The race for perfection has made humans to find happiness in material thing. We believe it comes along with money, power and status. But, life's little pleasures are always present , scattered all around. We need only to look around. In this time of disorder, what we require is a reminder of the same.

I once knew an old man, who used to come to our home. His family was poor, and they lived in a house with only two rooms. Whenever I see him, he had this beautiful smile, which enlightens his face. There were many hardships for them and his wife always talked about. She was complaining about not having a proper home, their son who cannot stick to any work, the daughter-in-law who does not feed her three kids properly . The wife was always calculating and contemplating their situation, while he talked about his grandson's naughtiness and grand daughters innocence. The impression these conversations had was huge, while we loved the wife, we awaited for his talks. As it bought smiles on all. My Mother once said, we all have difficulties in life, but it is important for us to remember the little things that brings smiles to all, like the old man. He never ever said anything about his worries, but always talked endlessly about the pleasures in life.

The reason, why we always worry, is because we think of ourselves as something of matter. But, what matters most is the friendship, the love, the smiles we have with one another. Those little pleasures, which makes us live , those small moments which makes us feel good. Oh! how we forget it easily, but shouldn't that be the one to always cherish.

Remember friend's, it does'nt matter who you are, what you are or where you are, live the moment and save Life's little PLEASURES.

The Women In Me

Every time, these days we hear from many corners news about women. Be it something about, what she achieved or about something others feel is not proper. One way or other there is always "Women's Talk". A particular interest always exists on this topic. But, how often do we Women talk about ourselves. There are only minimalist talk , and very minimal thoughts .

The inner mind of a women is very complex. It's like, we have many different boxes in various shapes and colors intertwined by threads into a very complex structure. We never really care about that person within ourselves. The women within me wants me to nurture her. She wants me to acknowledge her, to appreciate her, to love her. If , we are not doing this to her, we slowly deteriorate into a shell, where she lives. Then, she does not feel love, she does not feel anger, she does not feel empathy. More than anything she forgets herself. She forgets to live a life and get a life. She forgets herself.

It is high time, that we recognize the need of ourselves. There is nothing that ensures inner peace, other than the self-realization that , if we do not nurture our inner soul, we fail in life.

Only when we understands , the women within, we can really focus on the up-bringing of our fellow beings.

Always, know that, once we identifies ourselves, nothing can stop us. 

The Story of My Writing

Well, today, I was determined to write something. Anything, but it should be written. So, I decided to write about why I started to express my thoughts in words. Words always fascinated me. When I was a kid, the magic of language attracted me so much, that I always wanted to master it.

Of course, there were difficulties. Initially, no one guided properly, or we can say there was a lack of a person who could offer me help. But then, it was not always about whether someone was there to support you. More often, it was about self-confidence. I clearly remember the day, when my dear brother (cousin) saw the writing I had scribbled over .He was delighted and laughed at what I have written. Well, it was definitely something you could expect from a 7-year old. The anxiety and heartbeat could have given a race to best racing cars. My brother got up, called me closer and asked:"Chinnu, you wrote this". A nod was my answer. "It's Beautiful". I was surprised. The best comment I ever got in my life. Till that time, nobody has given any encouragement.

The guidance and support I got from that person, is one which I will cherish forever. He was unique and he wanted to bring about the uniqueness in me. From that time I believed that anything is possible for anyone, if we recognize oneself. There are lot of stories to tell, all cannot be written over here. After all this, there was a time, when I totally neglected to write. It was not bought about by any particular conditions, rather it was because of my negligence. The reason is solely my laziness and lack of confidence. it took another two years to regain the confidence and to slowly build a power over words.

Till now, I have not mastered over language . There are miles to go before I can say,"Yes,I Did It".
But there is no holding back, the journey has begun and it will be eventful. I am anxious, yet I am curious and keen as a kid. hopefully, someday, I will have followers, admirers and fan base . Who knows, anything can happen, but it will happen. One day I would declare to one and all"Hey you all, I am a Writer".

God bless... :D

Tea Time Parties

The most beautiful time in a day is - Tea time!! To sit on the balcony, in a sunny evening, may be rainy too, with a cup of sweet fresh brewed tea , just makes the day more beautiful. This is also the most important part missed these days.

In my home, tea is a routine. Be it morning or evening, my mother , my brother and me always sit together for a cup of tea. Tea was the energy drink for my mother. It never mattered to mother, that she did not have breakfast, but she just could not move without her daily cup of hot refreshment.
Tea conversations was always unique and covered almost anything.

The most important part is the time, when we all remain silent, lost in our own words totally forgetting that time exists. Wow!!Just the thought of it triggers the most beautiful feelings in my heart.

We just love it and we really miss it.

Maybe, I will have the same with my kids sometimes, somewhere......

Art of decision Making

Decisions, decisions, decisions... Are you good at making decisions. Hmm, yes, maybe I am or I am not. Are you great at it? Certainly not!! Well, this is not the over-all scenario,but it is certainly mine. How many times have you regretted your past decisions. Many,isn't it? Oh! but here is the thing, past is past and a hell of a time is left for you.

There never goes a day where we do not regret what we have done in past. Be it for small things. Maybe, it's about a furniture you purchased. Maybe it's about a job. It might also be about your marriage :D :P.  I am just saying, what's done is done. Still, why do we cry over it? Why do we spend hours talking about it? I believe, we get some sort of satisfaction, by analyzing it with the current situation. How many times have we thought of getting into a time machine to do it in another way? But, we cannot. It is life not a freaking Hollywood sci-fi thriller movie. So wake up, own your decisions. Own it and proudly embrace it. You do not need to justify it to anybody. It was you who made it. There were many factors to influence, which felt right at that moment. You cannot drag your life, to make the right decisions at the right time. Sometimes, wrong decisions at the right time paves way for better life.

The thing which matters the most, is that in no way,it affects or hurts or damages anything that you hold dear. Do not make decisions that force you loose your integrity and peace of mind. Be aware of what you do and why you do it. Be aware of what you want and why you want it. Stay true to yourself. Stay faithful to yourself. Happy Decision-Making to All!!

In Search of my Mind

This topic may raise quite a few eyebrows. You may think, I have taken a new interest in philosophical existence. Well, of course I love philosophy, but this has nothing to do with it. Or you can say, this topic has nothing to do with the main stream philosophies. It is something that I always think about. What exactly do I need? What is it that I am lacking. It has been quite some time that I have been thinking about it.

There was a period in my life where everything was stagnant. Yes, you were living but not living a life. On those days, I always contemplate about the effects of up-bringing on a person's life. I don't believe in perfect childhood, maybe because mine was not. I know that I used to envy other kids, when I see them enjoying things which I never had. Later, I came to understand that ,it's not necessary to have a perfect childhood. What you need is an understanding of why it so happened. I knew I had to change for the better.

That is where my quest to find myself began. I have written a lot during my school days, but I always lacked the courage to show it to others. There was a sense of inferiority within me, that drove me back even though I was a good academic student. Fear was a part of my life. Fear of failure, made me to back down from several opportunities. A constant feeling of letting other's and myself down forced me to believe that I am just a person without any capacity to conquer my dreams.

But, eventually changes happened. There are many people who believe in us. It is one thing to know them and another to understand them. Somewhere , I do not exactly know where, I began to appreciate myself. I felt the same from other's. From those who love me and believe in me. I know , I have to come back. well it is not easy, but it is also not not achievable.

Still, I am pretty sure that I have not completely unearthed myself. The quest continues. The only thing that I know of sure is, I will never allow myself to fall into the abyss of darkness that swallowed my past. In search of my mind, I dare to think new thoughts, believe new me and attain new heights.

Love You All.... & God Bless.

New Year Resolutions

Another New Year has come by and wherever we go all we can hear are New Year Resolutions. I was also seriously considering the same. But then the fate of all previous resolutions hit me. It mocked me, dared me to take more. Well, I realised that one should not take resolutions just for the sake of taking. It is not something to take as a fleeting fantasy.

So I asked myself, why do you need to take New Year Resolutions? Why should we wait for New Year to take any resolutions? Why cannot we just take it when we realise to do something? Is it because, the feeling of a new beginning gives a desire to do something new? Well. I think it is.

The beginning excites us, gives us new hope, imparts us vast strength. And it is very funny to see that enthusiasm and eagerness vaporising fast. To full fill all the resolutions what we need is to identify the one thing that we need the most. The determination to achieve something and the presence of mind to get up and work for the same. A decision made from a whim can never be a resolution. It is just a passing whim.

So , Dear Friends , if you have resolutions, give your maximum to acheive it. Let it not be another failure. With that, thinking about some more resolutions and hoping to achieve the same. Happy New Year!!!